Hi, Robyn D'Angelo here, The Happy Couple Expert and your relationship coach teaching you how to create your very own EPIC relationship that lasts. Today, I've got two words for you: Honest. And Crazy.
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Ladies, have you ever seen that Pinterest post or something on Facebook that says, "I just want to find that guy that loves my crazy"? Well, here is why that totally resonates... because we have our moments when we feel out of our minds-- men you have them too! For some reason, women's moments tend to be highlighted.
Anyway, the reason I bring up honest and crazy is because when we get really really honest with our "crazy" moments, or those moments where we just feel irrational. We feel completely separated from reality sometimes in our expectations, in our hopes. If we can get really honest with our partners about that, we could turn it into a pretty cool interaction.
Here's an example:
I was getting ready for family to come into town. I'm running around cleaning the house and I walk into our kitchen and there's dirty dishes and I look at my husband and he looks at me and I look at the dishes and that kind of goes around a couple times and I just kind of, I finally had to laugh.
And he said, what's happening right now?
He was confused and I just said, "I want you to read my mind. I want you to read my mind. It doesn't seem that impossible. I want you to read my mind and say, Robyn wants me to do the dishes and have them done like 10 minutes ago."
And so we had a moment where we laughed but we also had a moment where we got to have a really honest conversation about expectations and we got, we got to the bottom of a couple things and it just it created this environment for a really really cool and honest conversation.
So, I want to encourage you this week, when you feel your moments of 'crazy' coming up-- those moments where our expectations are just not rooted in reality or they are just exceeding reality, um, have a conversation with your partner. See if you can make it playful.
And if you're having trouble doing that and you don't even know how to start-- that's where I come in. Let me help you guys create an environment where you can have these conversations. Where playfulness can buffer conflict sometimes. Call me. I will help you and your partner create this environment, give you new language and help you learn how to get honest with your crazy. Alright you guys, thanks for listening and watching and I'll see you next week! Bye!