Hi, Robyn D'Angelo here, The Happy Couple Expert. And, guess what's coming up? Wedding Season! (As if some of you didn't already know that!)
So, in the spirit of wedding season approaching, I wanted to talk to all of you who are either engaged, looking to get engaged, or thinking about marriage at all, because when I work with couples and I'm doing premarital coaching there are four different areas that I sit down with them and get them talking about because in order to have an EPIC relationship post wedding, you've got to be doing the work before, during, and after the wedding.
So, let me tell you about those four different areas: finances, career, love, and social life.
What happens is, if you guys aren't talking about different aspects of each of these and you get married, then all of the sudden, it feels even heavier when you have an issue. I'll give an example of some of the things that I do when couples work with me for premarital coaching. I have different questions that I Iike to go through and ask.
So, let's say for money, "How do you set boundaries around the requirements of your job and do you equate earnings with success?" Something to think about.
With love, here is a great question: "How is this relationship different from those didn't work out?" Get the conversation going. What it does is, it actually highlights what's really special and EPIC about this relationship.
Here's an example for a work question: "What are your expectations for your partners career and success and then how does his or her level of ambition differ from yours?" Again, having these conversations, negotiating these, talking about this.
And then lastly, social life: "Describe how your picture of your day to day life will look together." Again, these are things that may seem kind of light, some of them may seem kind of heavy, but if you're not talking about them, there is going to be a big disconnect.
What we do in premarital coaching is I help facilitate these conversations between you and your partner.
So, there you have it- four different areas that you should be talking about with your partner and if you need help facilitating that conversation, I'd love to be that person for you. Feel free to reach out. You can send me an email at robyn@TheHappyCoupleExpert.com or comment below and let's chat! And here's to wishing you a happy and EPIC life together! Talk to you soon!