We can focus a lot of our time on what is wrong with our relationships. I used to have a mentor that explained it to me like this.. Imagine two scenarios - you look out at a field and there are a ton of holes everywhere. You can choose to start spending time filling the holes or look over to the part of the field that is even and flat..ready to be built upon. Filling in the missing pieces is back breaking work. Why not look to the positives and build something great? We can end up staring at the blaring holes in our marriages or partnerships and we miss the opportunities to build something new. In couples counseling, I find it is important to approach issues with balance. We may fill some holes, but the goal is to establish a solid foundation - a partnership anchored in security. If you are interested in couples counseling, call me at 714-290-1652.