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Hi. Robyn D'Angelo here, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Specialist. Today, I am here to talk to you about four ways to talk to your partner about finances. The dreaded finances. They don't have to be so dreaded. The first thing I want you to do is figure out what your money personality is. You both have one. There's quizzes online. You can look up money personalities, and there's things from "the hoarder" to "the spender" to "the money monk"--I mean there's lots of different personalities. Find out what yours and your partner's is and just start talking about it. The second thing is communication, communication, communication. I cannot stress it enough. Right? It's not discussions of money and finances that kills relationships. It's miscommunication and misunderstandings. So, really taking the time to find out what your and your partner's money personalities are and then talking about how are they similar? How are they different? And how can you guys start to manage together? The third thing is admit any kind of financial infidelities. And this may sound kind of crazy, but, you know, every now and then we tell white lies, but if you find yourself constantly lying about your spending habits or maybe you have some bills on the side you haven't shared with your partner, now's the time to just come clean. Talk about those. Talk about how you got to that point. And, really try to connect with your partner and try to figure out a way to stop that immediately with their support and their, you know, hopefully, their love. And how to make sure it doesn't happen again. Again, the "hows" are really important when it comes to financial infidelities. And the last thing, and it may sound kind of silly, but it is monthly money check-ins. And this doesn't mean sitting down together and paying paying the bills or "hey, honey, did you pay the, you know, the water bill?" It's not that at all. It's really coming together and talking about your financial goals. As we, you know, partner with one another, we forget that there has to be time for daydreaming, right? Yes, finances pay the bills and they can be a point of frustration sometimes, but finances also pay for vacations. So, really making a point to make time to daydream together about an upcoming trip or a purchase or just something fun, so that money doesn't always have to be this dreaded conversation. So, I hope this has been helpful for you. If it has, fantastic. Please leave me a message below in the comments section. Or, you can email me with any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org. I'd love to hear from you. I'll talk to you again soon.
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