I've been thinking a lot lately about our need as humans to feel seen and truly understood by our partners, as well as, getting the courage to admit when we don't feel visible to our partners.
The event that really triggered this is something that happened last week and I really want to illustrate this for you.
So picture this: I was driving into the office last week and I saw a little dog running around in the neighborhood all by itself. I pulled over and I just watched it for a minute, looking around for it’s owner nearby. I didn't see any humans in the area, but the dog looked happy. It looked joyful and adventurous and was running around and just seemed overall good-to-go… other than it was unsupervised, missing its human.
So by now, as curious puppies do, it's running into the street. You may already know I am a huge dog lover. So, I get out of my car and I walk over to the dog and the dog just comes running to me. I mean just so happy! This was like a little shitzu, maybe 4 pounds— teeny tiny! And he seemed so happy to see me, so I squat down and I pick him up and again, no collar, no identification or phone number to return to its owner. Then, I notice there are some burrs and really sharp stickers in his paws and his back legs, so I gently start to remove them as gently and slowly as I can. I'm soothing the dog and I can tell the dog is uncomfortable. It's wincing and pulling away and trying to wiggle free, but I held on tight and I created this little space in my arms for this tiny little dog so I could remove as many of these burrs as I could.
Then I go door-to-door, knocking, trying to find the owner. Finally, I give the dog some water, and long story short- I get the dog to a shelter and fill out all the paperwork and hope that his family can come find that dog.
But, as I was driving back to the office, I really started thinking about all of you! Those of you who tune in every week, who receive the newsletter, who have probably listened to a few of these videos and really resonated. Or maybe this is your first time watching one of these videos (WELCOME!) and maybe some part of this is sounding familiar.
Either way, I just wanted to share this with you guys because I thought about all the people that I know that reach out to me, that talk about everyone around them thinks they're doing great; nobody knows how much they are in pain, how lonely they are, how disconnected they feel from their partners/families/friends, how they just feel like they want to get home. And I just wonder if any of this resonates with you?
I wonder if there a part of you that is nodding your head or saying “Yes!" or even tearing up? Saying, "Yeah, I'm tired of wandering around and looking perfectly happy and healthy and in love to everyone outside and yet, I have these emotional stickers and burrs that are just agonizing every time I move. And I'm ready! I'm ready to do something about this." Is that you? Do you- Are you feeling this right now? If it is, I just wanted to say to you, and I need you to hear this: "I see you. I see you and not only do I see you, I know how to support you in this. I know how to scoop you up, make room for you and you're partner and gently tend to those emotional wounds that no one else can see."
I can help you do that if you're ready. If you're ready to start tending to those wounds and if you're ready to find your way back to your partner-- I want to help you! I can help you! It just goes back to that idea of courage that I talked about in the beginning of this video and the courage that it will take for you to reach out and get that support. Because the moment you do that, that's the day that you decide that you're ready to go home and I want to help you do that.
So, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. You can call me directly. And if I can't be the one that can help you, I can help you find someone who will, because you do not have to wander the streets like everything is ok, secretly hoping and waiting for someone to come along, scoop you up, tend to your wounds, and set you on your way. Today is the day— make that choice. Alright, I hope this has been helpful and I will talk to you all next week. Buh-bye!