Life is nothing but a series of choices. And I say that in the context of relationships, because oftentimes I get my clients and people in general just kind of asking me, "Well, what do I do when I just feel like somethings not fair or I really truly feel like I'm in the right and they're in the wrong and I just need them to see me and hear me and I need them to change their minds?"
You have a choice. We always have choices and in a moment, your relationship can change simply based on a choice you make. So if you are trying to connect with your partner or you're having a fight or you've just had a fight, think about your choice of what you're going to say, how you're going to respond.
Do you choose to turn toward them? Do you choose to walk towards them when you really just want to run for the hills? You always have a choice.
And oftentimes when you choose what's right for the relationship and you think about the relationship, rather than your wants and your feelings and, but what's right for the relationship and you choose according to that, it makes the world of difference.
So, keep that in mind next time you have a fight or something just really hard comes up. Think about, "what is my choice right now?" And just make a decision. And then if you don't like the outcome of that decision, make another decision. That's the beauty in this. There's no right or wrong decisions, there's just decisions with outcomes. And then based on how you feel on that outcome, make a different decision.
So, there you have it. And if you don't know how to make those decisions or you would like help making those decisions, call me! That's what I do! I help couples every single day learn how to love and be loved and that includes making decisions. So, reach out. Thanks for watching, I'll see you next week! Bye!