Recently, I was chatting with a friend about a weekend getaway with my husband to celebrate our wedding anniversary.
This was no usual getaway. And I mean, it was so far out of "the norm" for us, that we hardly recognized one another.
We slowed down where we would usually speed up, do more, see more + explore a whole lot more.
But we didn't.
We snuck away to a friend's cabin, in the mountains, 2 hours away, + if it weren't for the wifi, we would have been totally off the grid.
Together, we slowed down.
We binged on season 6 of Orange is the New Black (finished the whole thing in 2 days + it was glorious!)
We drank wine + whiskey through out the day.
We ate microwave popcorn for dinner. (YUM!)
And we just vegged out.
And as I was sharing this with my friend, feeling a little guilty for our anniversary being "so many things we could have just done any other weekend at home, he said something that really stuck with me:
"Sometimes, it's all about where you do it, Robyn."
We both giggled a bit, but I was profoundly moved.
His words swam through my brain.
I smiled. I giggled more. And then I wrote this to you.
Because so often we think that in order to really slow down, connect, have great sex, relax, + enjoy the one person (who's been driving us crazy Monday-Friday), we MUST go do things so ADVENTUROUS that it mentally + physically rips us away from reality.
But that wasn't the case this weekend.
And that isn't the case, in general.
Yeah, we were in traffic for 4 hours, to a location that technically should have been 2 hours away (thank you So Cal traffic), but it wasn't like a total escape from reality.
There's this big misconception when it comes to reconnecting in relationships ...
You have to go all out by scheduling an expensive spa day, booking a weekend at the Ritz, all while documenting every moment on Instagram just to create deeply connected, lasting memories.
I call bullshit.
Sometimes, you just need to change things up ... a little.
And what better way to do that, than to change where you do it?
- Maybe it's sending the kids to grandma's so you two can pitch a tent in the backyard, camp under the stars + giggle at hilarious YouTube videos.
- Maybe it's letting your spouse choose a new location for your weekly date night.
- Maybe it's meeting each other at the beach, on your way home from work, to watch the sunset + sneak in a make-out session.
- Maybe it's getting breakfast at the new cafe instead of trying to figure out what to cook tomorrow morning.
- Maybe it's inviting your man to join you on quick a walk around the block to talk about what's for dinner.
- Maybe it's flashing your bare buns to him, post-shower, as a playful invitation for a bathroom counter quickie.
Get creative. Do it someplace new. Together.
You see, connecting with your spouse doesn't require a the two of you to experience some life changing event together.
Because let's face it ... even that experience does not guarantee connection.
Now + then you just gotta change your environment.
Get outta the house.
Get outta town.
Get outta the crazienss of everyday life.
As my wise friend said, "Sometimes, it's all about where you do it."
So, where will you do it next?
Where will you go to connect, laugh, hold hands, have sex, cuddle, + have fun?
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