I am inspired on a daily basis.
Sometimes by documentaries I watch. Podcasts I tune into. Songs that I listen to while getting ready in the morning. And especially by my clients.
My most memorable inspirations usually come from those who I've gotten to know over the years. Professionally. Personally. Humanly.
Today, I want to share with you, what inspires me. And WHO inspires me.
In the case that you're in a little extra need of inspiration today.
"There is no neediness in desire. Needing is one thing. Wanting is a completely different thing. Women have known this forever. Anything that brings up parenting, usually decreases the erotic charge." - Esther Perel: The Secrets to Desire in Long Term Relationships
**When desire dips in marriage (which it eventually does) THIS is my go to watch + share with clients. Great reminders. And Esther is funny as hell, too.
"Life is too damn short to hate what you're doing! You have my support to STOP." - Ken Graves, LMFT (it's always a treat when your friends are therapists)
**Text message I received when I admitted to hating training for a half marathon I'd signed up for. But boy does this apply to so many other things in life, or what? Thanks Ken!
"I'm one decision away from a totally different marriage, a totally different life, a totally different job, a totally different income, a totally different relationship with my kids." - Mel Robbins: Motivation is Garbage
**Interview I make sure to watch monthly, when I'm down on myself for not maintaining healthy habits like exercise, nutrition, self-care + compassion in my relationships.
"Something I learned a long my own journey with marriage and family and just life in general...it's a constant redefining process, looking at what your hopes and expectations were, grieving them, and then redefining them. The question is....have you grieved at all?" - Dr. Kimberly Ciardella
**That moment you realize the resentment + anger you feel is simply because you have not yet grieved. Redefinition can't happen until you grieve. Thanks Kim.
"Trust is built in really small moments - I call them Sliding Door Moments. When there's an opportunity to build trust, there's also an opportunity for betrayal." - John Gottman: Sliding Door Moments
**When attempting to rebuild trust after any kind of rupture in a relationship, you must know about sliding door moments. You can build or break trust. It's your choice.
"Under moderate stress, women have a stronger emotional reaction. Under big stress, men have a stronger emotional reaction. Big stress for men: A problem they can't solve + can't forget." - Dr. John Gray: Mars Brain/Venus Brain.
**Helpful reminder to have compassion for the men in your life. Especially when they're most frustrating.
"The sign of a master therapist is that they walk into the therapy the same way they walk across their bedroom." - Terry Real: Author, therapist, speaker.
>> This quote has shaped the way I show up for my clients.
Unlike many "traditional" therapists, I am real in the room with you. I will tear up with you, I will giggle with my you. And yes, I drop an occasional FBomb with you. Just like I would in my real life.
Therapy is a human experience, so I show up human, to honor the humanness you are so brave to share with me.
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