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Relationship Rehab: Making Your Anxiety Your Superpower

Emily Porta

Does your anxiety feel more like your cape or your noose?  Let's talk about how I made my anxiety my superpower on this rainy day.  Check out my latest video and join the conversation!

Today, I'm talking to all of my fellow anxiety sufferers.  Good morning.  It's raining like crazy here in Southern California, which is great because we need the rain.  However, for those of us who experience anxiety, this can be a really tough time. 

 I woke up this morning thinking about all the different places I needed to go, and my anxiety immediately started:  "Oh my goodness, I have to get into my car, I have to drive...."  I know that when the weather gets like this, people tend to not drive at their very best, and so I get anxious.  And I start thinking what are the ways I can make anxiety my superpower?  How can I do this?  And I'm struggling this morning. 

So, I just wanted to share a little something with you.  First thing this morning, I had to take my dog to the vet, and I noticed: I'm going in there, I kind of took my time, traffic wasn't too bad.  And I start interacting wtih the gal who's checking me in and helping me out with my dog.  And I called her by name. And I noticed how it just shifted the energy between us.  She got more smiley.  She kind of lit up a little bit, and it started with that. 

I went to grab some stuff and check out and again, the next guy that I interacted with who worked there, called him by name and I said "Thank you.  How are you today?"  Just taking a moment to get present.  And to check in with someone who you're interacting with.  It seriously lit him up and it was so wonderful to see him go "Oh gosh, thank you for asking."  And it just kind of continued on.

I decided to treat myself to a coffee this morning and as I'm walking in there, I'm smiling, I'm looking at people.  People were probably thinking "What is this chick's deal?"  But I just felt so happy.  I felt so relaxed because what I was doing was I was doing my best to keep present.  And when I'm acknowledging people within my environment, when I'm holding doors open for people and saying "Go ahead, after you," not only does it create an energy and kind of a connection with others, it--ZAP!--brings you right into the present moment, which is one of the best ways that you can manage your anxiety. 

So, I just wanted to share that with you guys this morning because it just had me feeling really great (unexpectedly, because I did expect to be really anxious today).  And I'm doing a great job of making my anxiety feel more like a cape for my superpower, and less like a noose--you know, something that just feels like it's stifling. 

So, if this sounds like something you need some help with or you struggle with, give me a call.  I'd love to help you out with it.  714-390-1652.  And if I can't be that person, I'd love to help you find someone in your area that can help you learn to manage your anxiety and make it your superpower. 

What tricks do you use to make your anxiety your superpower?  I'd love to hear your tips in the comments below!

Does Your Anxiety Feel Like a Noose or a Cape in Your Relationship?

Emily Porta

I had the honor and joy of being interviewed by Stuart Fensterheim, Couples Expert in Scottsdale, Arizona about couples and anxiety. Listen and learn simple ways to have a loving caring relationship when one spouse may be struggling with an anxiety disorder. With openness and vulnerability I share both my personal and professional expertise on creating intimate connections when anxiety is present in your relationship.

The anxious spouse A Journey of Connecting

STUART B FENSTERHEIM couples counselor, relationship expert, author, and blogger

 

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In this podcast you will learn ...

• How to identify our own super powers as a means of being vulnerable with your partner.

• See the importance of sharing how painful the anxiety disorder is and how powerful it is to share your experience with your partner.

• How the non-anxious partner's anticipatory anxiety of their partners anxiety becomes part of the problem.

• Tips to help couples having a vulnerable dialogue about what each of you needs from each other.

• Exactly how creating connections is about intimacy within your relationship.

• The real dilemma when an anxiety disorder is a part of your relationship and how to maintain strong connection.

• Changes that occur in relationships when anxiety is more of a noose than a cape.

• What anxiety REALLY feels like and how it's experienced.

• How to identify and meet your partner's needs in order to feel loved and supported.

• How to look at the partners anxiety disorder as a strong message to use your support system.

• HOW TO MAKE ANXIETY YOUR RELATIONSHIP'S CAPE RATHER THAN ITS NOOSE. 

Don't Let Anxiety Kill Your Relationship

Emily Porta

Anxiety in a relationship is challenging and here are three things YOU can do to ensure it doesn't kill your relationship. 

Did these help you? I'd love to hear from you! Leave a comment below or email me directly. If you're in the Laguna Hills, California area and you'd like to know more about how to create a happier and healthier relationship - I'd love to work with you directly. (714) 390-1652.