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Today I am giving you something that you and your partner can do to reconnect.
So many times I have couples walk into my office saying, "I just don't know how to connect with my partner," "I don't know how to make them feel special," or "I need to feel special and I don't know how to tell my partner to do this without hurting their feelings or starting a fight."
So, I have a question that each of you can ask one another at least once a week. And it can be any version of this, but the question is,
"What is one thing that I could do today that would take our relationship to a 10?"
One thing! And what this does, is it gets your partner thinking about:
- Things that you do well in the relationship, because you obviously want to do more of that
- It also gives your partner an opportunity to talk about what they need. Often times we don't either feel comfortable doing this or maybe we just don't know how to ask for what we need.
So, there you have it, it's that simple. Ask your partner AND having your partner ask you, "What's one thing I can do today to get our relationship to a 10?" See what happens.
And if this is something that you struggle with, even getting to that question-- I want to hear from you! It is my goal to get couples all over the world to just connect, to start enjoying one another.
Life is too short to be in a relationship that you don't enjoy-- that's not EPIC! So, there you have it, ask your partner this question. Have them ask you this question.
And thanks for watching! I'll see you guys next time, buh-bye!
Here's a tip:
Ever thought about going to counseling, knowing that you could use some help, but haven't been sure where to start? You may be wondering what to say? How do you even start the conversation?
Well, you just answered your question! Not sure where to start, then just say that. That is a spring board into so many feelings. As a therapist, I am there to wade through the ambiguity and help you find what is there to say, not to let you drown in feeling lost. So when you don't know what to say, that is simply saying enough.
Ever wonder at what point you should get some counseling? I want to make this very simple. Ask yourself this question - Is whatever that is going on, interrupting the way you want your life to be?
You don't have to wait until you feel like you are in crisis. Sometimes, brief counseling is helpful to address issues. But don't be surprised if you start counseling and find that it helps other areas of your life too! You might end up wanting to keep on working on creating a better you!
Counseling can help you with your relationships, your career, and most importantly it can greatly impact the way you feel! If you feel ready to make a change, then you are ready to try counseling. Don't wait. If you live in the Laguna Hills area, give me a call 714-390-1652.