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Got stuck?

Emily Porta

Last week I was at a training. The coach was helping us address our fears and in that room there were a TON of successful people. But when he dug down deep, they all had fears. Actually, everyone shared pretty much the same fears. It starts with "I can't" or "I am not". 

Living in the headspace of being less than or of not having reaps fear, anxiety and frustration. What if we started claiming what we are. "I am" or "I can" followed up with positives. You might walk taller, speak confidently, and start making decisions with your higher level brain. 

I have said many times that what gets us stuck is our lack of options. Language is a primary place where we lock ourselves into beliefs that don't help us move forward in our lives. So taking the time to change your language can even impact your perspective and your feeling about a situation. 

This is why affirmations are so powerful. You are asserting who you are, claiming your power, so that then leads you to confidence or at least more assurance. My hope is that you don't stay stuck. That you see there are other ways and if you can't find those ways on your own, that you reach out to get help from someone. You CAN do this!

You can always change your mind

Emily Porta

I often come to the conclusion that there aren't too many black and white choices in life. People ask if a reaction is normal, if they are normal, if what they want or need is normal...and I say, if it works for you why change it and if it doesn't work for you, you can always change it. Too many times we feel that we don't have choices. "This is just the way life is." You may not like some of your choices, but really, there are always options. 

We can become anxious and consumed that we are going to "mess up" which then leads us to believe the world might end. Would you tell that to a child? Would you tell them to not screw up because then they will be stuck in their life?....If it isn't ok to tell a child that, then why is it ok to tell yourself the very same thing? Listen to all the voices in your head. These come in the forms of self criticism, self imposed expectations, shame, guilt, fear, etc. Tell the to be still for a moment. There is no absolute wrong all the time. You can change your mind.

You can learn from your mistakes. You can grow to be better than before. You can try something else. You are never ever stuck. 

I once went to a school, an expensive school, that I just hated. So I left and traveled across a few states and ended up in California. In hindsight it was the best thing I could have done for myself. At the time however, I thought I had just made an awful decision attending this school for a year...what a waste! It wasn't a waste...it shaped me and prepared me for the next decision. AND I didn't stay and be victimized. I got empowered and left. So glad I did. 

What are you stuck in? Why are you afraid of changing your mind? What do you really have to lose? or What could you gain? What greatness and learning could come out of a change in your life? You have one life, be radical with it!