Take a moment every day and fill it with a positive affirmation or thought. Simple. It will change your life. It will change your brain. Positivity releases dopamine - oh and that stuff feels good to the brain - forms new connections amongst neurons - and that is how you change your world.
When we see the bad stuff in our partner, we look for more bad stuff. If we start noticing the good, well while the bad is still there, it doesn't hold us hostage or keep us from connecting. When we have a believe about ourselves, "I am not good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, rich enough...." it colors our entire perception. Reality can never be known. Or, reality can only be defined by your perception. So if you believe that you are worthless, you will seek to confirm that is true.
This is AWESOME news. It means you have power - power to change your whole world, build new relationships, start a new business, turn your financial situation around or just find some inner peace amongst the chatter in your head. So, do it right now. See something positive. Set the intention every day to do this, and slowly you will pull your brain out of the fog and into some light. You will be better for it.