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Nostalgia

Emily Porta

I admit, I have been a little quiet around here but I don't like writing unless it comes from the heart and is something I think you could use. I am sure you are reading all sorts of things about the holidays - how to manage your time, eat healthy, have boundaries with family, be grateful - the list goes on and on. So here is my contribution to the holiday blog roll.

Do you ever recollect a time when things were joyful? It's that feeling of nostalgia. We all have it at some point but particularly during the holidays.  I know I remember as a kid how easy the holidays were and now with my own child - sometimes it feels like a lot to keep track of. (That in part is my own doing, I know..)

Here's the thing I want you to know. Nostalgia isn't reality. It is a memory, looked upon through many filters of your experience. In other words, it can be a little distorted. And while I love looking back, it can make being present very very difficult. And I have been one to use nostalgia to keep me stuck in sadness. It can be used as almost a self abuse. When end up resisting acceptance of our current place in time by longing for something that is no more, we have no where to turn but our memories. Yes, remember, be thankful and learn from our past. But our past memories no longer need to be a marker for what we have and are now. 

So this season, may you find a new way of being in the holidays and doing things in the holidays. Now is the time for new traditions and discoveries. Take the nostalgia and carry on in your life. Enjoy what is.

Inner Wisdom

Emily Porta

Sometimes people ask me what I think about a situation. 9 times out of 10, they already know the answer. Which got me thinking, why do we seek the answers in others and not in ourselves? Why don't we trust our inner wisdom.

We all come into adulthood with a certain level of influence from our parents, siblings, family members, or friendships. These relationships shape us into the people we are today. However, part of this shaping includes some stories that we take on as our own. Confused? Well sometimes we start to identify with labels that other people give us "I am not good a sports." "I am shy." "I can't speak in public." And these beliefs, I find, sometimes come from our experiences in our childhood and what others told us about ourselves. 

Everytime we listen to these beliefs, we end up silencing our inner wisdom. Ask yourself, are you really not good at sports? All sports? Every aspect of it? Or is it that you haven't found one you like? Or is it that the sport you like isn't traditional...maybe you like to go birdwatching! If we don't challenge these beliefs, we end up stuck, in the same patterns that feel mundane and frustrating.

But when you DO CHALLENGE them, you might find a small voice, your inner wisdom, start to bubble up and stand up for you! "I am not shy, I just don't like being criticized. I am outgoing when I feel safe with the people around me." 

What kinds of labels or beliefs do you give yourself? Are they really true? Are they suffocating your own truth. Let your inner wisdom be your guide...just give it a try.