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"Thank You!" A Moment of Gratitude & Reflection for the New Year

Emily Porta


I wanted to send this message out to all of you this week and say "Thank you." 

Thank you for all the support over this past year.  It's been amazing getting emails, and the calls, and the questions.  It's really helped shape the way that I get information out to the world.  I really appreciate it. 

I also want to remind each of you to take time--rather, make time--to care for yourself during this time. I know it can feel kind of hectic to people.  Maybe even feels a little bit more lonely than normal.  Make time to show yourself some love and compassion, whatever that looks like during this time. 

Really gear up for the start of the new year.  Take a look back at 2015. Look at what you're grateful for.  Look at all that you've accomplished.  Look at the challenges that came up and how you navigated through them. 

Because you are here today.

I want to encourage you to take care of yourself, whatever that means, as the new year starts. 

Thank you again, everyone. I look forward to seeing you in 2016!

The New Year is here!

Emily Porta

A couple years ago I wrote about my take on New Year's resolutions. (You can read more about it here.  ) But if you are looking to make one change in the new year, might I suggest one? 

Stay present.

Yeah, yeah, you've heard it before. But the practice of mindfulness not only leads to more calm in the brain, it changes the brain. Literally the physical composition of the brain shifts with meditation. If you experience anxiety, depression, distraction or overwhelm, meditation can help you heal. So here are some tips for beginning a meditation practice in the New Year.

• Start off with just 10 minutes a day and work your way up.  Headspace is a great app that can help you get started as well. 

• Make a sacred space, just for you, where you can sit and be. It doesn't have to be super quiet, just comfortable.

• Sit on a cushion or in a chair - whatever works for your body. But sit with your spine straight and alert.

• Be comfortable. Where comfortable clothes when you start, light a candle if it makes you feel good, play light music in the background, whatever you need to entice you to sit and be. I play a yoga music track on Pandora. 

• Remember the goal - to befriend your mind. This isn't mind control or how you stop thinking. You are taking time to observe and understand how your mind works. 

Need help with starting a practice? I work with client that use meditation as part of their healing. Give me a call 714-390-1652.

Living with Intention in the New Year

Emily Porta

It is the end of the year and the weight loss commercials and dating website advertisements are in full force. We often start to think of what we want to change about ourselves. I find we start to dream a little – which is something I think we should do often, not just for the beginning of the year.  One of my favorite things to do is to set my intention for the year. I don’t make resolutions. I put out there things I want for myself, my life and my family. I think big picture and I don't get to rigid with numbers and facts. So here are some tips when setting intentions for the year or even for everyday:

• Follow your heart – or your gut (something I think that are very connected) Don’t put your energy and hope into something you don’t believe in. Really, just because you ended up divorced and everyone is trying to hook you up with the next person, doesn’t mean you should do it. Trust your own intuition in knowing what is right for you. Intentions that bring forth fruit in your life do not come out of a place of pleasing other peoples dreams for your life.

• Be open to possibilities – Once I set the intention of trying new things. I really was thinking about it more in the context of sports. But, a year later I looked back and I had tried new things in how I handled my relationships, tried new foods, I did try new ways to exercise and so on. I just put out there a real broad intention and it ended up touching many parts of my life.

• Dream BIG – when I do business coaching I like to ask people what their dream business looks like. My clients get stuck here too sometimes. Many of us were taught to be “realistic” and to go for what is attainable. That is fine, but you lose the creativity and you don’t challenge yourself. This results in missing out on lots of opportunities. I am not saying that if you have a dream to be independently wealthy that it will happen. I am saying if you have a dream of wealth, set the intention, and you might be surprised where it takes you – managing the money you have, increasing your emotional wealth, a new career…you just never know.

• Go Wholistic – Look at your life from many angles – physical, emotional, spiritual – and set intentions for your whole life. Set intentions that cover multiple areas of your life. You may set an intention of practicing more random acts of kindness – that can be applied to multiple facets of your being.

• Acknowledge the Fears – “Oh, I have been meaning to do that, just haven’t found time.” Well, I have said this (probably said it today) but we make time for what is important to us. When we don’t make time for something and put it off, I tend to believe there is fear lurking around – fear of failure, fear of success, fear of change – and then the negative self talk creeps in – “I can’t”, “I should have” (you get my drift right?).  Embrace the fears. Maybe set the intention to be aware of your fear or anxiety and not buy into it. Awareness is key.

So I set intentions and I don’t talk about them with anyone. In fact, my best friend gave me the most fantastic idea to make a collage of my intentions. I like to create so this works well for me. I create a collage for my new year intentions, tape it to my wall and leave it. I don’t worry about it. (Unlike in the long ago past where I had the resolution to lose weight and I checked the scale everyday…no fun!) Put out in written or created form your intentions and let your subconscious do some of the work. And hey, if something goes differently than planned, that is ok – because you are open to possibilities and that there is a bigger picture here. You are a growing, flourishing human being. That is the beauty of life. There is no need for beating yourself up, feeling guilty or “starting over”. This journey is filled with surprises – embrace them and go on the journey with an intention to be aware and open.

My hope for you this year is that you find this journey to be filled with more peace, kindness and compassion than in years past. If you are hurting, that you find healing. I was just reminded by writing this blog of my intention from last year – ONLY LET THE GOOD IN –that is my heart for you.

Searching for the New Year

Emily Porta

It is the New Year and everyone has their rituals, traditions and resolutions. But what I found most interesting is the increase of people searching for a therapist. Yep, in the past two days it has been busy. And I say, why not? We focus a lot of time on the outward self...our weight, our clothing, our image, our career, ect. But how much time do we spend on the inner self - our thoughts, our hopes, our dreams, our pain, and our desire to really be understood or known. If you haven't thought about what to do this year, talking to someone can be a great start. I am free for a consultation and there are other websites where you can find therapists, such as www.theravive.com. It's a New Year, why not work towards a New You!