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Are you waiting for permission?

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Are you waiting for permission?

Robyn D'Angelo

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Have you ever wanted something so badly, that you didn't REALY think it through before committing to it, only to find out that you really DIDN'T want it but it was too late? You'd already committed?

Yeah, I know that feeling well. 

Last week I did something I am not proud of. 

Something, that normally I'd be quite embarrassed about + not tell anyone. 

Typically, I'd just keep quiet, stop posting on social media about it + just go dark. 

But this time was different.

Let's back up to December 2017. FOUR months ago. 

I got all pumped up, reached out to a handful of girlfriends I used to run half marathons with + talked them all into signing up for + running a half marathon with me this May in Chicago.

They were stoked. We are scattered all over the U.S. so we were excited to meet "in the middle" + run 13.1 miles together, again. 

It has been years since we did this. We're all in our late 30's now. Some are parents now. Some are career-focused, some are kicking ass running their own businesses and some are doing all three! 

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Needless to say, none of us are in peak running condition anymore. 

 

6 Months. We gave ourselves 6 months to train. That's twice as long as I've ever given myself to train for a 13.1 mile race, "so I should be golden," I thought to myself.

Well, here we 2 months away from the race + I just started training 4 weeks ago.

  • I'll spare you all the details of the things that your lungs produce when you start running again after NOT running for a while.  🤮
  • Or how blisters can actually form WITHIN OTHER BLISTERS on your feet if you're talented enough.  😩
  • And I won't bore you with explicit mental images of what HANGRY Robyn, 3 miles into a 6 mile run sounds like. (She's not very pleasant)   🤬

 

But I will say this:

Over the last 4 weeks, of getting up early to run...

Running at night after a long day of sitting ..

And running while on vacation, while everyone is drinking mimosas at brunch...

I really was not having fun. 

Running alone is SO not my fave. It's lonely. I won't push myself. If I want to stop I will, then I will feel guilty for stopping because "I should be able to keep going, it's only been 2 miles."

And so on, and so on.

Back to last week. If you recall, I wrote about all the people that really inspire me lately. And one of them was my super awesome colleague + friend, Ken Graves. 

While I was driving to a local spot to go for a run, I got a text from Ken that said, "Enjoy your run!" 

I scoffed a little a rolled my eyes. Not at him or his text but at the fact that I was totally NOT enjoying these runs anymore.

OH who am I kidding, I wasn't EVER enjoying the runs. They felt forced. They were HARDER than they'd ever been. And honestly ...

They were just so lonely. 

So I replied to Ken with a super whiney,

"Ughhh I really am over this whole training thing. Can I just go to Chicago + have a fun weekend with my friends? lol" 

The text I received back was exactly what I needed to hear. 

Ken said,

"Life is too damn short to hate what you're doing! You have my support to STOP."

I'd just parked my car + was ready to get out + start my 3 mile run when I read those words.

In that moment, I just paused. 

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I read + reread his words.

"Life is too damn short to hate what you're doing! You have my support to STOP."

The moment I realized, I didn't need ANYONE'S PERMISSION.

My eyes welled up with tears. He was right! Life IS too short for this bullshit. 

To do something, that is not bringing me joy, and all because I was worried about what my friends would think of me. 

I was worried what others would think of me. 

I had d committed to doing something FOR me ... that ultimately no longer brought me joy.

And I thought I needed someone's permission to NOT DO IT. 

A part of me was strangely hoping that I'd get an injury that FORCED me to say no.

Have you ever been there? 

WAITING for permission to do what you actually want to do? 

Or in my case, STOP doing what I didn't really want to be doing anymore?

And guess what I did? The thing I would normally have been too embarassed to do.

I text my running buddies + told them, I'd given MYSELF permission to NOT run the race. 

I wasn't for sure NOT running, but I'd given myself the green light to decide the morning of the race, if running it was something I felt ready to do and WANTED to do. 

Because once I saw Ken's text, I realized ...

It's not permission I was waiting for, it was support. 

I just wanted someone to say, "I totally support you in whatever you choose to do."

And once I got that, I totally felt good about doing what was best for me. IN THAT MOMENT. And feel good about it. 

And I would venture to guess, that if you've made it this far in my story ... you TOO have just wanted someone to support your decisions. 

You probably find yourself yearning for someone to validate your choices. 

And if taking a step back to look at where you're at in your relationships, career and family shows you that you've been doing things out of miserable obligation (self imposed or not) I think it's time you hear this ...

 

YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT TO DO WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY. 

 

Read that again. To yourself. Out loud. Whisper it if you have to.

Your choice to take care of your needs + wants are supported. 

If this resonates with you...

If this is something your heart has needed to hear ...

Or if you're just realizing, holy shit I've been waiting for permission and it's time to do something different... 

Then take this in. Feel it. Let it marinate. And when you're ready ...

CHOOSE to do what brings you joy. TODAY. 

And if you're in need of support, guidance + someone to cheer you along the way, click the button below + let's chat. 

Today, you get to feel supported to do (or NOT do) the thing. Whatever it is. AND still be supported.